Dear Annie, my husband is not going to make clear his infidelity

Dear Annie, I recently married the most amazing guy I have ever met, but I know for a fact that he has cheated on me more than once. I actually got calls from the other woman describing his body and my home.

When confronted with this he tells me to stop complaining, gets angry and asks how I can think that of him when he is the most loyal guy in the world. He says he wouldn’t do this to me because “I’m his world, his everything.” He says that with tears in his eyes.

But still, my heart tells me he’s lying right in my face and laughing behind my back.

All of our friends know they cheated on me because they saw them together, and one even helped him cheat more than once.

I thought I was going to marry my true love. What can I do? — Married to a man who can’t get in

Dear Confused: Honesty and trust are two of the most important qualities for a successful relationship, and you don’t have either with this guy. He shouldn’t make you feel bad for talking to him about your concerns. Seek the help of a trained marriage counselor as soon as possible so you can decide if you want to stay married to “the biggest man,” who isn’t sounding so good right now.

Dear Annie, My daughter-in-law has always been very strict with her two young children. My son hates conflict and doesn’t tell her about it. He only apologizes for her.

I recently discovered that she had hit one of the children hard enough to leave bruises. Both children told me that their mother beats them “all the time.” When I confronted her about it, she said she was having a bad day and apologized.

I told her never to put her hands on the children and get help again. I told my son he had to protect his children and get their help. I suspect they will ignore my advice and carry on as usual.

What can I do? I am not healthy enough to take in the children and I think reporting their mother would make the situation worse. — Concerned grandmother

Dear data subject: You have every right to be concerned. If your grandchildren continue to be beaten and injured, you should report them. Talk to your son again and tell him you’re considering reporting him. Child abuse is very serious. Just because she was having a bad day is NOT an excuse for physically harming a child.

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