The word infidelity is scary for almost all of us. We are afraid that this can happen to us every day. It is something that is not easy to forgive and often leaves a relationship in an irreparable state.
When it comes to guys, there are two types of infidelity: physical and emotional. Physical infidelity occurs when your partner is physically connected to someone else, and emotional infidelity occurs when your partner is involved in emotional intimacy with someone outside of the relationship.
The question here is which one is easy to forgive. How does it affect a relationship? Should we ignore emotional infidelity for a relationship?
With the growing Internet and technology, emotional matters have increased. Many people have laptops and phones that make it easy to start an emotional affair without your partner knowing. It starts with an innocent friendship that eventually leads to a strong emotional bond. For some people it is an escape from their everyday life and problems, and for others it is fun. This emotional sharing with other people poses a threat to people who are in a relationship, especially those who are facing some problems.
One of the research conducted by Chapman University heterosexual men was more likely than heterosexual women to be most likely to be sexually infidelity (54 percent of men versus 35 percent of women) and less likely than heterosexual women to be emotionally infidelity (46 percent) of men versus 65 Percent of women).
I share the story of my friends who recently dealt with emotional infidelity.
Rohan and Kaira were together for five years and then married. They were best friends and the perfect couple. Rohan took on a demanding job. The job kept him busy all the time and he couldn’t find much time for Kiara. Kiara was also a working woman, and at the end of the day she missed her husband, with whom she shared every other day of the day. For Kiara, Rohan was his contact person.
Rohan’s demanding job began to create distance in their relationship. Kiara felt more and more lonely. They lived together, but there was a lot of unspoken hostility between them. Rohan didn’t have time to discuss the problems with Kiara. This happened for a few months, and then Kiara must have lost all hope. She wasn’t happy.
Then I think what I call an emotional affair has started. Kiara and her broken heart began looking for someone to share her pain with. She could see the light when an old friend called her on Instagram after seeing her last photo. From there their conversation began, and its frequency increased day by day. She got closer and closer to her new friend. She started sharing everything with her friend. Rohan also had the feeling that Kiara was moving away from her. He noticed that she is always on the phone. The moment Rohan tried to confront her, she was angry.
If your partner is emotionally invested in someone other than you, he / she shows one DDD (Dishonesty, Distracted, Distant) pattern.
Dishonest: Your partner will start lying to cover up their business
Distracted: You will find that your partner is always distracted or constantly talking to someone on the phone.
Away: Your partner will distance himself / herself, whereby he / she will stop sharing things with you. Small mistakes can upset him / her and seem irritated all the time.
Kiara also showed all of these signs. There was no doubt that Kiara loved her husband, but at the same time she was close to someone else. It’s not entirely Kiara’s fault, but the truth is that she was embroiled in emotional infidelity.
What should Rohan do now? He has also made a mistake by forcing her wife into solitude and making work a priority. Rohan has to decide: can he forgive Kiara and also investigate his mistakes? Is he ready to work on their relationship?
Since they were a family, Rohan decided to work on themselves and their relationship. He made it clear to Kiara that what she is doing is not right, and he also admitted that he was also responsible for drowning in her work. Their relationship was very important to Rohan and he went to great lengths to save her.
It is important to understand that people have different opinions about emotional matters. For some people, it is as inappropriate or harmful as a physical relationship. For others, it’s something that can be ignored or viewed as harmless. There are many couples for whom their relationship is most precious and they want to save them at all costs.
It’s difficult for me to forgive a physical matter, but it’s even more difficult to forgive an emotional matter. Emotional matters can be more damaging to a relationship as your partner connects with someone on an emotional level. Your partner has a strong emotional bond with someone else and it is often difficult to break completely. A long emotional affair will one day also lead to physical infidelity.
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This post was previously published on Hello, Love.
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