Gehraiyaan stokes conversations about relationships, psychotherapist says glorification of infidelity may result in ‘confusion amongst individuals’

By Jigyasa Kakwani It is believed that every relationship, especially the romantic one, comes with its share of difficulties, and how people deal with the ups and downs of the journey shapes the type of relationship they have with their partner.

But what should be done when an act of infidelity or infidelity messes up our belief system and shakes us to the core? With the recent release of Deepika Padukone star ‘Gehraiyaan’, conversations about infidelity and its portrayal have reignited among viewers. The film has received polarized reviews for its treatment and portrayal of the subject.

While people generally form their views based on their personal experiences and values, professionals such as psychologists, psychotherapists and psychiatrists can offer a much deeper and more sensitized approach to the subject. Sushmita Roy, Senior Counselor and Psychotherapist, Medall Mind, shared detailed details about the experience of dealing with infidelity in a relationship and the process of healing from the accidental trauma.

Roy explained the effects of infidelity to ANI: “The effects of infidelity are extremely traumatic because no one goes into a relationship thinking there would be. It can have serious psychological effects – depression, increased stress, sometimes it can result in questioning your own confidence and self-esteem. You start blaming yourself – is it me? Did I make a mistake somewhere? Have I not invested in the right person? The one who is unfaithful and the person who is on the receiving end are both equally affected.” Regarding films like Gehraiyaan, Roy said that influencers involved in such projects need to pay more attention to what they are portraying .

“I think that certain people who hold these influential positions in society, who have the ability to influence others, especially the young minds who follow them so much and look up to them so much, it’s desirable that they have those.” Roles take on very, very carefully. Because somewhere they are responsible for how people think and act. What they project onto the screen will actually affect 100 kids sitting out there and normalize it at the end of the day. So what values ​​are we really leaving for the generation? Celebrating such issues could actually create confusion for people,” she said. Dr. Jyoti Kapoor, Senior Consultant – Psychiatry, Paras Hospitals, Gurugram, said infidelity in a relationship doesn’t have to be just physical.

“Apart from physical infidelity, there are different types of infidelity such as emotional, cyber, financial and combined infidelity,” she shared. When faced with such a situation, Roy said, one should have the courage to end the relationship rather than choose to be in a broken one.

“Cheating is cheating at the end of the day. I’m not for you staying in a broken relationship. If something isn’t working for you, we should have the courage to face it and come out on it and involve the partner and.” tell him your expectation. If something doesn’t work, it’s our responsibility to take care of ourselves, right?” she said. “Broken marriages are better than bad marriages. When you’re in a bad marriage, nothing really works in your favor at the end of the day — you have mental health issues, you have children affected, and there’s trauma every day. But of course in a broken marriage things are much clearer, you have to deal with the leftovers of the relationship. But at least you don’t have the baggage of cheating on someone,” she added.

Addressing this infidelity can also have long-term psychological effects. “Infidelity can have lasting effects such as grief, brain changes, later behavior, and mental health conditions such as anxiety, chronic stress and depression,” said Dr. kapoor

Roy, who has 16 years of mental health experience, emphasized the need to heal and recover from trauma. “At some point in the process, you can no longer trust anyone. So there has to be a way to restore that lost trust. It’s not an easy path, but it’s an extremely important one, because you can’t live life without trusting your immediate network. Otherwise, you will always be suspected and socially excluded, and that can have other psychological problems associated with it. You won’t be able to enter into fulfilling relationships, you won’t be able to love yourself,” she said.

“There has to be a way you can restore your confidence. You can do anything on your own, but if you feel you can’t do it on your own anymore, then I would suggest that you meet with an experienced therapist or counselor. Walk this journey together, because a counselor will help you go within she added. Dr. Kapoor also shared some tips to heal the trauma caused by the infidelity event.

She shared: “Opt for breathing exercises, yoga and exercise. Sleep well and eat nutritious food. Roy went on to share how someone who has cheated on their partner and feels guilty can make things right again.

“Like I said, cheating is cheating at the end of the day, but even if it does happen, don’t be too hard on yourself. I would suggest rather than beat yourself up for it, I think very consciously that we’re going to do that in the.” We should be able to forgive ourselves first. And if you really feel sorry for your partner, then in very open communication, you should show that kind of regret that ‘I’m vacillating, but I’m all for making it up to you’.” I think brutal honesty is very important . I’ve seen many couples revise their relationship after a certain setback. So it is possible to walk this path together again and to forgive yourself and each other, to accept what you have experienced and to look forward to a new beginning. A therapist can really help you achieve that,” she said. (ANI)

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