Interestingly, while it doesn’t seem like a huge difference, there is a difference in the type of infidelity that the sexes are hard to forgive, with men being more likely to forgive emotional cheating, but not physical, and vice versa for women.
In addition, 85% of women in the study said they had been forgiven for infidelity, while the number of men who had been forgiven was lower at 80%.
The study also looked at financial fraud.
If you are unsure what this means, “financial infidelity” is defined as “any willful financial deception between two or more people” who have “a stated or undeclared belief in mutual honest communication on financial matters”. So, if you pretend to be buying a new one, it is an old process. They say you bought something for sale but paid full price, or hid purchases and receipts, would fall into that category.
Is your partner cheating on you financially?
Not only did the study show that financial cheating is on the rise, but most people consider it to be as serious a breach of trust as an affair. (Shocking I know).
In fact, 16% of people think it’s worse. This is also reflected in the consequences of financial infidelity. Almost 20% of respondents said it was financial fraud, not infidelity, that led to their divorce.
“Many couples are facing increased financial pressure and uncertainty these days, so trusting this arena is a must, according to our members,” said Isabella Mise, director of communications at Ashley Madison. “For most of the people who come to our website, marriage is less of a fairy tale than a pragmatic partnership in which things like money play a huge role in the quality of life that they can build together as a couple and for their family. If that confidence is tarnished and financial errors are exposed, it can have real budgetary consequences in their view. “
Dr. Tammy Nelson, TEDx spokesperson and author of When You’re The One Who Cheats, said, “If you and a partner move in together or get married, you can have a conversation and reach an agreement on how to deal with shared finances. This includes a financial plan – who pays which bills from which account, how much to save for the future, how much risk you both take on investments, etc.
“Financial infidelity occurs when one or both partners break an agreement without the knowledge or consent of the other.”