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Shouldn’t my wife, who is staying at home, pay me alimony?
If I’ve been married for 16 years and my wife has been sitting on her bum for the last 16 years of her own choosing while the two kids have been to school all day, fairness wouldn’t dictate that she support me for the next 16 years While getting a personal trainer, do I take two practice lessons a day and go with the Christian Louboutin salesman on a first name basis? Why should I have to support her for the rest of her life? She’s gotten over me for 10 years (since our kids were in school all day). It has to go on forever now?
– It’s my turn, out of the country
Dear Gucci Loafers,
Do men actually wear these outside of reality TV? If I’m being honest, I don’t know the masculine equivalent of a woman’s Christian Louboutin habit, but it hardly matters … as unfortunately you neither will.
Your question is funny mainly because it sounds so true. Unfortunately, your chance to control your financial destiny has come and gone with your wife. The court has to take your wife as she will be found in the divorce and it appears that she is most likely a flexible fit glorified caregiver for the job after school with absurdly expensive and mismatched shoes. Surely her resume is as dusty as your gym membership, and she is likely lacking real, currently marketable skills. This is the woman you activated, even though you may not have wanted it to be, and this is the woman the court expects you to at least take care of until she is reasonably able to find her own way Finding self-sufficiency.
The good news is that lifetime maintenance should be unlikely, given how old your wife is and how long your marriage is going on. Your best bet is that she will find some new juice to take on payments, that is, marry while she is still mocked and well dressed for your maintenance obligation to end.
– I hope Marilyn
Will my neck tattoo affect my chances in family court?
Not long ago when I was about to pretend I got a drunk tattoo of less than selected words and a drawing of my baby maker on the neck. I am the father of two children, a girl and a boy. My ex is making a super big deal of this and we have a hearing in a couple of weeks. Is it really that big of a deal?
– Tattoo tales, sparks
Dear Tattoo Nightmare,
I don’t know all the details but I know enough to say I can cover up this disaster ASAP! You can either cover it with another tattoo, as seen on TV, or you can laser remove it. Laser removal takes longer and usually requires a lot of treatments, but it works.
Either way, this is an educational moment for you and your children to learn about what happens when you drink and wash. I want to warn you to cover the ink for the dish. However, since it is the subject of the hearing, it is too late for that!
How can I regain custody of my grandchildren?
My daughter recently entrusted me with the care of her three children. Before I could do anything formal, my paternal grandmother came from Texas and applied for guardianship. I also submitted and yours was somehow granted and mine wasn’t. We have a permanent guardianship trial in October; In the meantime, however, she pulled the kids out of school long before COVID-19 and completely blocked my contact with them. She has never had a relationship with any of the three – how could that happen?
– Gobsmacked Grandma, Reno
Dear grieving grandmother,
Good question. Given what you’ve told me and the state of the law, it shouldn’t have happened. I can only assume that the actual information about your grandchildren and their actual relationships with you and their paternal grandmother has not been accurately or effectively conveyed to the court. Otherwise, it could simply have been the result of her filing first and the court approving her petition before seeing yours.
If you have the opportunity to hire a lawyer, now is the time to do it! You now have to fight strategically for your grandchildren as there are competing cases and it can be difficult to navigate without advice. Alternatively, if she is able and in a good position, your daughter would be the best person to end the paternal grandmother’s guardianship and get the children back.
There are other ways in which you can apply for termination of guardianship yourself and / or resubmit yours if this is not currently also set for October. You need to make sure your application for guardianship is on the calendar for October. You might be waiting for October, but given what you’ve said, waiting with your grandchildren in the care of the wrong grandma is a long time. I would recommend that you file a little earlier and ask the court to reconsider who has temporary guardianship until a trial is due.
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Marilyn York’s legal advice is based on limited information. This advice should not and should not be used as a complete legal statement. Investigators are encouraged to seek comprehensive and thorough advice from a licensed family law attorney. In addition, responses to questions sent to Marilyn York for use in this column do not establish an attorney-client relationship between Marilyn York and the inquirer.