Ex demands that his wife waive child support because he needs him for his cancer treatment. When she refuses, she is confronted with violent reactions
The pain between once-married ex-partners can run deep, especially when infidelity means the end of the relationship. While ex-partners keep up appearances for their children, sometimes there is still plenty of Hostility lurks beneath the surface, waiting to emerge at the right moment.
This was the case with a woman who recently took to Reddit to ask if she was the idiot who refused to give up her child support Payments so that her ex-husband can afford his cancer treatment and continue living a lavish lifestyle.
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Man and woman with three children divorced because her husband was unfaithful to an escort lady 20 years younger than him
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To ensure a healthy co-parenting, the ex-partners gave the impression for years that they were getting along
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As part of their prenuptial agreement, the ex-couple had agreed that the woman would receive maintenance for her role as a housewife for the entire duration of their marriage.
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The ex-husband, who lived a luxurious life, became ill with cancer and asked his ex-wife to forgo her alimony payments so that he could afford the treatment
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The ex-wife refused, saying instead that the ex-husband could degrade her quality of life, which includes a multi-million dollar mansion.
The OP's story begins with her telling the community that she and her husband divorced after he cheated on her with an escort twenty years younger than her. The husband then married his affair partner.
The ex-couple stayed friendly for the benefit of their three daughters, and according to the marriage contract, the ex-husband agreed to pay alimony. Today, the ex-husband suffers from early-stage thyroid cancer.
The man approached OP to ask her to forgo child support payments so he could afford his cancer treatment, despite the fact that he was living a lavish lifestyle. lifestylecomplete with a multimillion dollar villa and a woman on whom he spends thousands.
OP refused, but the couple continued to pester her and even involved their three daughters in an attempt to emotionally blackmail. OP said they could scale back their decadent lifestyle at any time.
The ex-husband has since called her cold-hearted and said that he would help OP if the roles were reversed. OP concluded her story by pointing out that the man's cancer was very treatable and not at all life-threatening.
The OP's husband sounds like a bad guy who might stop paying child support to get himself out of the financial hole he's in. So it might be important for the OP to refresh the facts of her original divorce agreement to avoid any nasty surprises.
In his Article for Marriage.com, Author Noah Williams states that determining whether a maintenance order is enforceable begins with a review of the original divorce decree or maintenance agreement.
This legal document sets out the terms, duration and amount of alimony and provides clear guidelines for its enforcement. If an ex-husband stops paying alimony, it is important to check whether the order specifies actions for non-compliance.
An enforceable order has the force of law and allows the courts to take action, such as wage garnishment or fines, against an ex-husband who stops paying alimony.
Consulting a legal professional can clarify the enforceability of a support order and guide someone like OP through the process of ensuring compliance.
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Williams adds that former spouses, often former husbands, can stop paying alimony for a variety of reasons. Financial difficulties are a major reason when a former husband stops paying alimony due to job loss, loss of income or overwhelming debt.
When an ex-husband stops paying child support, it is natural to look for the reasons for this sudden cessation. A straightforward approach is to communicate directly with the ex-spouse, as this can provide immediate clarity as to why the ex-husband stopped paying child support.
Financial difficulties, misunderstandings about the terms of the agreement or a belief that circumstances have changed may be the cause. If the reason isn't clear through direct communication or your former spouse stops paying alimony without explanation, Williams recommends consulting an attorney.
When an ex-husband stops paying child support, it's important to document the missed payments. Williams suggests starting by keeping a detailed record of the due date of each payment and the actual date it was paid (if applicable). Use a spreadsheet or dedicated financial tracking app to ensure accuracy and simplicity.
Whenever you communicate with your ex-husband about missed payments, keep emails, text messages, or any written correspondence as evidence of attempts to resolve the issue.
These documents should clearly show every case in which the ex-husband stops paying child support, so that there is complete documentation.
This documentation is invaluable when Legal Measures are necessary to enforce the maintenance agreement.
What do you think about the situation OP is in? Do you think she should waive her child support payments or let her ex-husband know that he should cut back on his and his new wife's extravagant lifestyle? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!
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